Just over a year ago to this day, I was happily reunited
with my old lead guitar-pickin’ running buddy Alex Westphal onstage at Billy’s
Ice in New Braunfels. The night was
a blast. Many tall Pabst Blue Ribbon cans and some solid jams with Jordan Minor
later, a great night in the Hill Country had come to a close. Right after that reunion, Alex and I booked a gig for the next night at Riley’s Tavern. It was just magic—though we hadn’t
played together in over a year, it felt good to be playing those old songs
again; it was still there, but even better than before. Also on the agenda was
to stop by venerable Cheatham Street Warehouse in San
Marcos and howdy with a good friend that I didn’t see
nearly enough, “Big” Tom McAleer.
A week later, a freak accident had
mangled my body and stripped me of the ability to play guitar and my good
friend was gone. Luckily, the ill effects of the accident are ancient history
and I can play guitar, piano, etc., again, but my friend is still gone. There’s
rarely a day’s passing I don’t think about Big Tom. I didn’t have the honor of
knowing him nearly as long, or as well, as some of my buddies did, but that’s
irrelevant. Big Tom was a good man and the sort of fellow who left an
impression on every soul he encountered. Hell, my girlfriend hung out with Big Tom
only two or three times and still talks about him to this day. I have held back
on writing about him. There are lyrics to a song that’s half-finished, which
hopefully I will get to soon, and there’s an unwieldy essay I started writing
shortly after he died (typed painfully slow with the one hand I had free and
functional at the time) but neither of those things were shared outside my
mind, computer and notepad.
As with anything else on this blog,
I don’t really have any sort of purpose for this. I hope in some small way, it
can explain and pay tribute to a man who gave so much to so many. I’m still
discovering the debt I owe Big Thomas J. McAleer.
I first met Big Tom, appropriately,
at Cheatham Street Warehouse. I learned over time, mostly from other folks,
that although he had seen untold thousands of bands and artists over the years
at just about any venue one could name, Cheatham was pretty much sacred ground
to Tom. Tom wasn’t a musician or songwriter, but the man knew great art when he
heard or saw it. Retroactively, it boosts my confidence level a thousand fold
to know that Tom dug my songs. At the time I met him, I had no idea who he was.
I’d only recently begun hitting up Cheatham, and was playing a happy hour gig there
when I caught sight of Missoula Slim in the audience with a mountain of a man
sitting next to him.
After I stepped offstage and was
kindly introduced, the conversation started. Three hours of solid gab (and a
few beers, well, I was drinking beer) later, I knew I had a new friend. It
wasn’t just music we talked about, either. I learned that he’d recently
recovered from some serious health issues and managed to quit drinking. I would
learn, over time, that his drinking prowess was legendary. I’m sure if I’d hung
out with him while he was still guzzling Shiner, my liver would still be
recovering.
Over the next few years, Tom would
book shows for me when I was passing through the magical Austin/San Antonio/New
Braunfels/San Marcos area, as well as in other locales, but he was more than a
booking agent, he was a good friend to hang with and the only person I’ve been
able to converse with on the phone for hours at a time. I’m not too adept with
chatting on the phone, and generally have to schedule blocks of time to return
calls. With Tom, I had to make sure I wasn’t doing anything for a few hours. He
was always excited about a new band or singer/songwriter he’d heard or saw, new
contacts for my benefit or full of talk about whatever politician was screwing
up (and screwing over constituents), and of course, there was the unbridled
enthusiasm for his beloved Green Bay Packers, which carried the devotion that
many folks only show toward their chosen deity. From that first night we hung
out, I knew there was a very, very good soul in Big Tom.
Tom was that guy who was always
excited about his new discoveries, and he always wanted to share whatever it
was with anyone he met. That’s the sort of passion you don’t see much in this
day and age of disconnected, solipsistic lifestyles. If anything, it’s frowned
upon. Wax too eager on something and you’re labeled a crackpot, or whatever the
term is these days. To say that Tom’s gusto was contagious would be to severely
understate the man. Politically, Tom and I agreed on many issues, but Tom knew
damn good and well that the music world is a lot like high school, and those
with conservative views wouldn’t always get invited to all the cool kids’
parties. He didn’t care, though. Like I wrote, the man was passionate about
whatever he pursued.
It was probably easy for some to
overlook just how cultured and intelligent Tom was. From what I gathered, his
extreme flatulence was as legendary as his bawdy sense of humor, both of which
he used toward fueling his self-deprecating personality. Sure, he could be
crude, but he could just as easily talk for hours about the convoluted, ever-shifting mess
that is geopolitics, or break down a particular line in a Townes Van Zandt song
that made the song so special. Tom was one of the few people I trusted when it
came to taking musical recommendations. Off the top of my head, only Mike Ethan
Messick and Steve Nanney (my girlfriend’s dad) possess as much knowledge about
music as Tom did, and can be trusted in their pronouncements on music. Tom not
only knew the lyrics and melodies to damn near every song imaginable (in Tom
fashion, he had a database of critiques for ‘em, as well) but he could also
rattle off who all had played on those songs and albums. This wasn’t only true
of Texas Country bands and artists, either. The amount of music Tom knew about
(and enjoyed) is as staggering as when I contemplate the sum total of what I’ve
spent on Shiner products over the years. Anyone can generalize as to why an "artist" sucks, based on superficial details, but Tom McAleer could launch into a dissertation-length diatribe as to why Eminem is not a good lyricist, complete with examples to back it up.
To really see Tom at his happiest
and in his element, one would only need to take in a live music performance
with him. The last time Tom and I were at a show was at Cheatham (naturally)
right after I played a restaurant gig he’d booked for me. Tom rode with me to
the gig and spent the brief drive to our shared favorite venue extolling the virtues of
Courtney Patton and Kylie Rae Harris. I knew Kylie from Troubadour TX, but Courtney I hadn’t heard of. If
Tom dug her, though, I figured one of two things: she was a great artist, or
she wasn’t lacking in the looks department (or both). The music I heard that
night blew me away, something that doesn’t happen a lot these days, even though
I’m only thirtysomething. In true Big Tom fashion, his excitement couldn’t be
contained (much like his love of cheap, filling Mexican food) and during
Courtney and Kylie Rae’s set, he rattled off snippets about other shows of
theirs he’d seen or anecdotes about Courtney’s songwriting prowess, and this
was on a night when the “Listening Room Night. Please Be Quiet” sign was taped
to the front door. Sorry about that, Kent. :)
I’ve been lucky to have a lot of
praise given to me and my musical efforts, but one of the comments I will
always treasure is what Tom told me at a party one night about my Winter Garden album. I told him that I
was getting ready to start recording a new album (a project that is still in
the works) and Tom asked if I’d been writing. I told him about some of the
(then) new songs I was so proud of, and Tom said, “Really looking forward to
it. The Winter Garden album is just
so good. I love those songs on there.” That sort of thing floored me, especially
considering how high Tom’s standards were. He didn’t hold back his opinions on
music. He was friends with Stoney LaRue and had worked with him, but even so,
he wasn’t afraid to tell him that he didn’t think his last album was up to
snuff. On the positive side of his critical eye, I’d found out from the last
visit I had with Tom that he’d placed Matt Harlan’s Bow and Be Simple album as Number One (it is a masterpiece, by the
way) for a column he was writing, a year-end “best of Texas Music” type list,
for Lone Star Music magazine, I think. Matt was tickled pretty pink when I told
him about that, and he’s won just about every major songwriting award you can
think of.
One of my favorite Big Tom moments
(and the one I told at his memorial service) happened after I’d played a South
By Southwest showcase he’d set-up. We were walking down the street, out in Austin,
and both feeling pretty jazzed from a night of good times and tunes. I’d just
debuted a new song, which would be the first song on the aforementioned Winter Garden project. It was called
“Highway Shoes,” and one of the lines in it goes “I just can’t retire my old
highway shoes.” Well, as we walked and talked, the sole of my boot just gave up
the ghost. It flopped forward, noodle-limp. I froze and cursed. Tom just
pointed and laughed, “Well, Chris, I guess you’ll have to retire those old
‘highway shoes.’” It’s hard to play that song now and not think of Big Tom. I
was unable to play an instrument at the memorial, so I did that song acapella.
I’d played it before on the Cheatham stage and dedicated it to him because of
that night in Austin, but I never
thought I’d be singing it a memorial service for him.
Tom never sat out to be a power
player in the world of Texas
music, but that’s what he was. In ways, he might not portray the conventional
meaning of such a term, but the man worked harder than anyone to further the
cause, and more often than not, to little reward. Sometimes I felt that just
being at a show with his friends was the greatest reward for him. He told me at
his birthday party, “I’ve got some of the best friends in the world, and I get
to hear them play some badass music. My life’s pretty great, man.” The way he
cared about his friends showed itself, not in direct “I love you, man!”-style messages
or whatever, but in his actions and in the jocular fellowship one could expect
when at a show or party with Big Tom. I recall one mutual friend who was having
a terrible time of it, and Tom stayed up all night one the phone with him, shooting
the shit with him just to make sure he’d be alright. At his memorial, Cara
Miller (Radio Free Texas’s First Lady) made note of how Tom never missed a
chance to express his love for friends.
Big Tom’s memorial (held at
Cheatham, of course) featured many funny stories about Tom, along with some
touching recollections of the man who brought so many people together. I hadn’t
seen the Warehouse quite so full in a good long while, but it just spoke to the
fact that so many people loved Big Tom. Right after I saw word of his passing
on Facebook, the entire network of Texas
musicians, music fans and fellow promoters/booking agents on the site was abuzz
with tributes to him, and radio stations had moments of silence in his honor. I
can’t remember ever having been so prolific on Facebook in the wake of the
news. I kept checking the site, searching for mentions of him, just hoping it
had all been a terrible mistake and that somewhere Tom was just fine, watching
a band play and giving buddies at the bar the play-by-play on the band and its
songs.
The night before the memorial, Liz
and I sat on a porch at a friend’s house in Gruene, sipping whiskey and
Shiners. It was a small gathering of some fellow RFTers. Some bittersweet
memories were exchanged. Both Daniel Miller and I tried to keep it in check by
exchanging tales of misadventures fueled by Jagermeister, and Liz tried to
bring a little humor into the mix, making mention of Tom's Tex Mex-fueled
gastrointestinal exploits, but ultimately, despite mine (and the others’) intoxication
and the laughter (both of which Tom would’ve wanted, this I know) I saw a
moment that just nailed the fact that we’re all connected here on this big ball
of water and soil. I’d stepped inside the house to grab another beer and found
Cara alone and crying. I hugged her and although I couldn’t think of anything
consoling or meaningful to say, I cried with her and the numbness I’d felt
since the news came to me left.
All of us were richer just for
knowing Big Tom. We’ll have those memories. Some respective, some shared, but
regardless, there are people in the world who didn’t know Big Tom and are
poorer for having never met him, but not us. Not those of us who hung out at
Melissa’s house that night, or those of us who were at Cheatham Street the next
day, or anyone in San Marcos or Austin (or wherever) driving around in a
vehicle with the Big Tom tribute sticker. He’s a part of all of us.
Big Tom, rest easy my friend. I
hope you know just how much you’re loved down here. Hope you're enjoying all the great music where you're at. If I know you, you're probably working on setting up a Townes Van Zandt/Doc Watson/Lightnin' Hopkins song-swap as I write this. Don't forget to book me for something with some of those guys when I get to the other side.
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